Can My Boyfriend By Sued For Back Child Support?

1. Katherine W Says

   When you write “My so called boyfriend” you’ve said it all. I bet he doesn’t treat you like a real girlfriend, right? Because it sounds like he doesn’t take responsibility for anything: he’s irresponsible about parking tickets to the tune of $5,000? If each ticket costs $50, he had to get at least 50 of them, AND not pay them off and have them double in price, at least. So he’s someone who doesn’t learn his lessons and just wants to do what he wants to do. That doesn’t make for a good boyfriend or a good future for you.
   Oh, and he doesn’t work overtime to pay off his debts, and that means that he doesn’t face up to financial facts, either. Not a good sign for the future. You don’t want to link yourself to someone like that. It means you can’t trust him to do the mature thing.
   Further, don’t be so sure that you make more than he does just because you have the same job and worked there two years’ longer. Ask what he makes. You may find that your company pays him more than you do, probably because he’s a man. If that’s the case, I would see a lawyer about suing the company, because they may be discriminating against women.
   As for the back child support, yes, she can absolutely sue him. But I think she’d rather have the threat of a suit hanging over him, so that she can keep manipulating him.
   Ask yourself if he’s treating you right. If not, he’s not going to change.
   Also ask yourself why you put up with him if he doesn’t treat you well, if your first words about him are “so called boyfriend.” I think you can do better.

2. Anonymous Says

   I’m pretty sure he can be sued for back support. Be careful. Do you really want to be with a guy who did not do things the right way for his child?

3. pistachi Says

   don’t know what kind of legal hold she has on him, but RUN

4. SarahT Says

   If he owes child support, than he is under obligation to pay it. She would have every right to sue for any money owed. This is why it is important to make sure that any payment plans are filed through the courts (or at the very least get it in writing). That way THEY will have a record of the deal and will be more likely to side with your boyfriend.

5. Quizzard Says

   Wow, you have a lot of misinformation running through here.
   If he does not have a court mandated support order, he is LEGALLY bound to pay nothing. In most states, support arrears only become due from the date that a support claim is filed. Anything he pays now would could against any such order.
   If she is collecting welfare as well as some level of support from him, that is between her and her social worker. It may be illegal or considered fraud, but it has NOTHING to do with him.
   Now as for the moral issue: if he was someone you wanted to be around, there would be no question of him paying for his child. He should be contributing about 25% of his take home pay. Nobody cares what he spends on rent, certainly nobody cares if he has outstanding tickets. Roughly 25% of his income should be going to HIS CHILD. A real man would not even question that.
   Lastly, a word of warning: you are running into serious danger here. He is stringing you along with the “my ex made me miss our date” That is BS, and I suspect you know that? If he was serious, he would not be allowing this manipulation, so he either is not serious, or he is a complete marshmallow incapable of helping himself or anyone else. Stupidity like running up huge parking tickets supports that idea.
   Throw in the very real question of how he is supporting himself, and I think you know what all this means. For whatever reason, he is lying to you. You need to tread VERY carefully.

6. Anonymous Says

   The best thing that he can do is do what your parents did – go to court and have this court mandated. If they have a payment schedule that is not court mandated it is only pretty much a gentleman’s agreement (well, to be politically correct a lady’s/gentleman’s agreement). If he doesn’t do this she will fleece him and make his life miserable until his son is of age.
   By getting a court’s approval, pretty much she will have to live within whatever he gives her and will not have a leg to stand on. Also, seeing that he would be paying his son’s support he would be able to write it off on his tax return (can’t do that if there is no formal agreement). He can carry on seeing his son, because he will have rights with the court agreement whereas today he has no judicial certainty at all. She can keep his son for ransom and just carry on fleecing him.
   Talk with him, lay the line in the sand and tell him what does he want to do. Obviously if he cares for you he should listen – if he doesn’t then sorry.
   Take care and I hope it works out.

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