me and my friend have been best friends for 16 years this year. we are 28 and 29.
when she was 19, her grandpa died and left her alot of money, she put 40k down on her house. at 26, she lost her house while her husband was in the army, and they refused payment from her. even though she was on the mortgage. they called a month ago, and admitted to stealing her house, and will be giving her 70k for stealing the house within 2 weeks.
when i was 24, i was pregnant with my 4th kid, and my husband died into a tragic car accident. he had a life insurance policy and i got 87k. i bought a house out of our city, 70 miles away, for 80k (foreclosed) and furniture, i had a regular minivan.
now that im 29, my minivans transmission is going out, and the door handle fell off, and i cant afford to fix it and me and the kids put around town barely making it. the automatic locks keep going off and on, and it traps us in the van. so we resorted to walking around town to get our groceries. since i get s.s for the kids, i do not work and have only worked afew years of my life. i have no credit because i always bought things in cash.
she said she would give me 5000 for a car when her money comes through for being a good friend and there for her when she lost her house and everything she knew. i told her id only want 2000 if you insist on giving me some money. and i have 1000 saved for a car.
do you think she’ll really give me the 2000 for a new car??



I don’t know your friend or your relationship, but, you guys have been through a heck of a lot of heartbreak and tragedy together for many years. The way your writing feels is that you both have a great bond. I believe she will help you. Perhaps I’m a person with a lot of hope for kindness left in this crappy world, but I feel your friend will always be the definition of what a true friend is. I’m sorry for your loss and hardships and wish you nothing less than happiness and kindness in you and your children’s future.
ask her but i feel for you, my bestfriend died while we were in iraq by a roadside bomber, then when i got back my brother had a stroke. Im sorry for your loss.
Considering she is also in a situation I wont take money from her,you need to work to provide for ur kids
I wouldn’t accept any money from her.
Who knows? I don’t know why you would have 4 kids at such a young age. You need to do a better job at planning. You should only have kids if you have money in the bank. I’m 26 and just obtained my law degree and am not even married yet, because I plan things out. I’d love to have kids, but it’s just not economically feasible. When My fiance and I start making money we will get married, buy a house, and then have kids knowing we have a nest egg in case anything tragic happens. I feel for your loss though.
I make it a policy never to accept anything that big from a friend. If it was your mom or a grandparent or a sibling buying you something like that then it’d be different. I think it may be beneficial for you to get a job and buy your own car though. I don’t mean to be rude, but you have four kids and you are just living off social security and you are barely making it. I know there aren’t many great jobs out there, I know Michigan is bad ( I live in Arizona, we got hit by this just as hard and there weren’t any great jobs hear to begin with) but, some work even part time is better than nothing. You would also qualify for pell grants from the government to go back to school and they pay for living expenses too. You could work at a fast food place somewhere part-time and go to school, you’d be making some money and getting an education to make a better future for your kids. You’d be setting a good example for them too. You could even go to school online so you can stay at home with you kids. Just a suggestion.