we are in a good relationship, he lived on his own before but his ex and him broke up and he had to move back in with his parents bc he couldnt afford to live on his own making a car payment and paying for school and hes been back home for 3 years now and i cant seem to get him to want to leave. Ive even offered to make sure the rent is paid for every month if he helps pay for internet and helps with food, like i offered him a free ride like hes gettin at home and he dont even wanna do that?, is it me or is it him?, i want to give him what i have but he doesnt wanna take it for some reason. And i know his ex hurt him alot, but im nothing like her, i care about him alot and i want to see him happy not cooped up playing world of warcraft being bothered by his parents for chores and arrands when hes 25 years old and should be thinking about marriage and kids and having a life, any thoughts?



Ask him why he’s not interested in moving in with you. You won’t know the real answer until you ask him. He might like living with his parents, or isn’t ready to move in with you because he likes the way things are between you two and doesn’t want it to be ruined by living together. Sometimes couples move in together too soon and that breaks off the relationship. A year and a half is a short time to move in with someone anyways, wait a few more months and he might change his mind then.
He might feel a bit embarrassed that you are going to pay the rent and do all this stuff for him. I mean he might feel a bit degraded. You should consider his feelings. Just ask him directly!
Don’t rush the guy. Yeah you guys have been together for a year and a half, but that doesn’t mean he’s ready for this kind of commitment.
give him some time and if he doesnt want to after a really long time then its not going to work
maybe hes just not ready yet to make the next step give him so more time
take it slow
it doesnt seem to me that he cared about u. Ur much better than him and u deserve some1 that is willing to give u everything not some1 who has to live with his parents and plays world of warcraft during his free time! if he cared about you the way u care about him he would get a job and not even hesiate to move in with you. Give him some time bcuz it seems like hes hesitant to move in with you. I think you should move on from this guy and find some1 better that you deserve or you can work on making him a better person you deserve.
There are many reasons for men in Canada not to live common law with women
1. The government treats you as equally married to anyone of the opposite gender your in a relationship with. If he lives with you he is basically agreeing to marry you. There is no contract necessary but as far as the government is concerned you are married.
2. Why would he want to leave his parents house which is free to live with you where he has to pay $$$?
3. Do you think he will not do chores and errands when he lives with you? I guarantee he will, I know no women will let a man be lazy and do nothing without negging him constantly.
4. Men can get married as late as 40-50 and its not really a big deal. There is no incentive for men to get married in their 20s. Which is why older men marry younger women. By age 30 a women needs to start a family if she wants well a family she needs to have kids before 40 generally otherwise risks her health. sos he needs to find a husband material by age 30ish and know him for a good 5-10+ years before marrying agree? Men don’t care, men at age 40 will marry a girl who is 25, they can still have kids, probably are the same maturity level and may even be a better fit.