Post-divorce Question…?

1. Aleechaw Says

   Questions 1&2 you are right. 3, no, not past. and all the rest, is none of her business. I feel for you & I can see why you got the kids. don’t play her mental games & move on with your life with your beautiful children. personally, i would be afraid she would steal them if she knew where they were on a sleep-over. oh, & 8 that’s a NO. she just wants to know about your life in detail. you sound like a great Man & Father! if you just want to talk at night ; aleechawa777@yahoo.com

2. Sheniquah Loves Facebook Says

   primary custody doesn’t equal sole legal custody
   you need/should share with her
   1 medical information is part of joint legal custody!
   2,
   3 (future only, she as the mother can legally request medical records from the dr. when you provide #1), 4 maybe, depending on IF you addressed religious decisions in your divorce
   5 is none of her business if on your parenting time. if he plays ball on her time too, give her the info
   6,7,8 she can suck it

3. ilikeric Says

   You don’t have to give her any of that other information that you were not sure about. Being the child of divorcee parents I know what the rules are. My dad once presented a similar list to my mother, who had full custody over my sister and I and her attorney said the only thing she was required to give him was medical information.

4. LIPPIE Says

   Don’t worry about any thing she asks for. If you know that you are required to give her these few numbers, then provide them. If she wants them bad enough she will have to spend her Dollar to go to court. She might as well ask you for a Million Dollars also, I bet you wouldn’t give that to her if she asked for that anymore than the rest of this dribble.

5. Anonymous Says

   She’s entitled to it all, except the recordings.

6. Poopsie Mellish Says

   sometimes fathers are given custody so you need to talk to the school nurse. And the school counsel.

7. Liz Says

   1 through 7 are for the benefit of the children. You should provide this information as divorce is tough enough on kids there is no reason to make it any tougher on them. Number 8 is weird. I don’t know why you’re recording conversations. It seems stalker-ish. I don’t see how it matters if you give her copies or not. There is nothing to benefit the children if she gets copies. My advice is for both of you to put your own pettiness aside and do what’s best for the kids.
   ETA- I just re-read your list…this past present future stuff is weird. If she was the Mother she should know what her own kids do in the past. For future you aren’t obligated to call her and let her know anytime your kids go anywhere. She can have basic info needed to take care of the kids while in her care ie doctors name and number but unless she wasn’t in the picture how is it possible she doesn’t already know who the kids Dr is etc?

8. Jade M Says

   Ask your lawyer. Most of the items seem reasonable, although anal. I think she is being obnoxious to irritate you; hopefully, she will soon tire of this.
   Numbers 1 & 2-absolutely, as you know.
   Regarding #3-give her the dates of future appointments. If she wants to know the dates of the past appointments she can figure this out herself. You gave her the information for the dr.s
   Numbers 4 &5 are reasonable enough-give it to her
   Blow off #’s 6&7. If she happens to call when the kids are on an overnight-fine tell her where they are but you don’t need to go out of your way to tell her where the kids are every single minute unless it will affect her visitation.
   #8 is irrelevant at this time.Tell her that you don’t have them any more or make her get a court order to provide them.

9. Myth_Und Says

   How can anyone in here answer this when we don’t even know the state you live in?
   Sweetie, speak with your attorney and get clarity from them. It seems like you’ve got a vindictive, controlling, ridiculous ex on your hands, and I wouldn’t jump through any of these hoops she’s asking you about. Football coach?? WTF is that about? Overnight stays in the past? These are both a little silly and probably not required. Doctor stuff is a little bit of a gray area. Emergency contact is understandable because, in case you’re unreachable, she should be able to find out where her kids are .. .but again, if it’s not required, DO NOT do it. Best way to find out what’s required is to ask your attorney or speak to the court.
   Best of luck to you, hon

10. Amy Says

    Personally I think she is just trying to control every aspect of you and your children’s lives.She has no right to do this. Any information you were ordered to share with her I would give her. Otherwise let the rest go. If she has a problem with it let her take you back to court. I guarantee a judge will laugh at most of her requests. She just does not want to let go. It is her way of still being there even though she is not.

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